How Can I Find True Love?

In my last blog I talked about a date that changed my life and led to an amazing discovery that takes a toll on your romantic life.   I said I would give you a clue as to how you can go about restoring your belief in love.  Of course, along with that, you would also like to know how to find true love.  Right?  Wow, a tall order but let’s get to work – or play – on it.  Let’s make this love thang easier on you!

A Clue:   Love happens from the inside out.

Have you ever heard the phrase in order to have love, you need to be love?

Perhaps you’ve noticed that people who seem to be happy and turned on to life are magnetic in their ability to draw others to them.  We want to be around these people.  Why?  We feel good in their presence.  It’s as if their happiness rubs off on us.  Love is like this too.

Yes, I admit right now I am taking you right down the path to love yourself land!  It’s become a self-help mantra, and while you may be yawning, we simply must start with this as a foundation.  Why, you rightfully ask, as you are surfing through the websites with mouse in hand – and a “have mouse will travel” gleam in your eyes!  So, let’s get right to it.

Stay with me because this is to improve YOUR love life!

Love Happens From The Inside Out

Remember in my blog The Date That Changed My Life I talked about how by mid-life many of us have lost our belief in love – and yet that loss of faith is coupled with a tremendous desire to experience love? Ouch! What a painful position to be in.  Maybe you can relate.  In fact, maybe you have been or are there now?

I also mentioned that my Best Relationships Ever program is designed to restore your belief in love – and life.  A major component of that program is the recognition that love happens from the inside out.

Love Is Not In Short Supply

I want you to re-ignite your knowing that love exists and is there for you. In fact, love is everywhere.  There is no shortage of love!   But, it is not something that happens to you. Rather, it is something that is generated from within you. Love happens from the inside out.

Love Becomes More Easy For You

In the moment you recognize this, your life can begin to improve and transform.  Why?  Because you can stop frantically looking “out there” for love and come back to where love truly resides – inside.

What is so great about this, you may ask yourself?  And I shall tell you.  Once you recognize that love begins inside, you become more empowered in your relationships.  You begin to realize that you are not powerless in your search for love, and can take steps to bring love in.

Greater awareness helps you to notice when you are grasping outside of yourself for the seemingly ever-elusive love source.

Just as we want to be around happy people, people want to be around us when we emanate love.  Love becomes more easy – it comes to us.  We don’t have to seek it out.

You Become More Free

Now, am I implying that you can just wrap your arms around yourself, kiss yourself in the mirror, and all will be just wonderful?  No.  We are critters who like company!   But, I am saying that when you recognize you can generate a feeling of love within yourself, you become more free. Healthy love then has a more fertile soil from which to spring forth.

Nothing Is Ever Lost

I remember when my beloved grandmother Lucia made her passing from physical.  I missed her humor and playfulness and could not imagine life without her.  I came to realize, though, that humor and playfulness lived in me.  In a sense, nothing was lost.  And so it is with love.

How Do I Begin?

By now you are probably asking yourself how you can go about generating this love within – or then again you may be asking what TV program is on that you could enjoy.  If it is the former, I would recommend beginning with cultivating appreciation. Do not underestimate the power of this practice due to its simplicity.

Soon, I will present an exercise that you can do that will help you appreciate more.  This exercise changed my life dramatically (perhaps more than any other practice I have ever done!) and I believe it has the potential to change yours as well.

Cultivating appreciation is a great step on the journey to experiencing more love in your life.  When your head hits the pillow tonight think about 3 things that happened today that you can appreciate.

You will be amazed at the results of adding appreciation to your life!